I’m bad at math. I know that, you know that because I’ve written about it, and at least a handful of my clients know it because of that one time someone accidentally hit a personal record of 205lbs on the trap bar deadlift…

Despite the fact that I lift weights regularly, I am not what the kids call swole.

And by swole, I think I mean overly muscular or busting out of my t-shirt sleeves. I’m not sure. The further away I get from my twenties the less I understand teenager speak.

According to the Urban Dictionary, the definition of going against the grain is "when you make life difficult by going against the wishes of others."

I'm going to suggest here that going against the grain is when you make your own life difficult by trying to be someone or something you're not.